tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498194182629204271.post6864637642862886870..comments2023-09-26T12:58:21.651+00:00Comments on The Paramedic's Diary: One angel in. One angel out.Xfhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08189044083128101123noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498194182629204271.post-73224334786480652202011-07-12T18:10:33.404+00:002011-07-12T18:10:33.404+00:00This has been a very significant blog indeed. I’ve...This has been a very significant blog indeed. I’ve acquired a lot of helpful information from your article. Thank you for sharing such relevant topic with us. I really love all the great stuff you provide. Thanks again and keep it comingremovals Londonhttp://cheapestremovals.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498194182629204271.post-90126060457985487992011-07-03T23:57:41.892+00:002011-07-03T23:57:41.892+00:00'Rock On' is the only words I can use to d...'Rock On' is the only words I can use to describe your good work Mr Gray.<br /><br />Keep at it, and oh - Rock On!<br /><br />Peace,<br />Chris.Christiannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498194182629204271.post-15862318457152120292011-06-26T08:09:20.222+00:002011-06-26T08:09:20.222+00:00Hmm, that's a nice post regarding about Angles...Hmm, that's a nice post regarding about Angles (Doctors), during the working time in Hospital...thank you for the post..Dr Hulda Clarkhttp://drclarkstore.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498194182629204271.post-29588338141116262402011-06-17T23:58:03.192+00:002011-06-17T23:58:03.192+00:00Thank you for NOT taking your post down. It is fru...Thank you for NOT taking your post down. It is frustrating to see individuals wanting to curtail free speech. There was nothing inciting violence or hate in the post. It would be a boring and oppressive world if the only material available had to be deemed offensive to no one. <br /><br />What was interesting was that the commenters who were most offended put THEMSELVES in the woman's position and responded as if it was them even though you already stated that the patient was OK with the post. Maybe if they could learn to instead try to imagine what a person different from themselves might feel or think, they would be able to open their minds.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498194182629204271.post-41334224998074509532011-06-16T23:40:47.612+00:002011-06-16T23:40:47.612+00:00Anonymous
Thank you for your initial comments but...Anonymous<br /><br />Thank you for your initial comments but I am going to disagree with you now. I have edited what needs to be removed because I have been able to reflect on what you have said but, if you look at the way I write generally, you will see that this is NOT out of character for me at all.<br /><br />Neither is my description of her screams in any way flippant because they were not always of pain - at no point do I suggest she was in agony. The woman was overdoing it, by her own admission and that of her mother. It was her 'I'm never going to let you near me again' response to having to push and not much more. She requested no pain relief and when given it by me, she hardly touched it until prompted to do so.<br /><br />Sometimes, you have to trust me when I write these things the way I do. Those who know me personally... I mean actually know me, would disagree with your analysis of me. You can see by other comments that not everyone shares your views on this post.<br /><br />I won't remove it for a few reasons - it is my blog and I will write it the way I see fit, within the guidelines of my employer where relevant. The woman had no problem with it and at no time felt disrespect from me or anyone else on scene. The post is part of my personal healing and it has helped a lot.<br /><br />You were right to point out my highlighting of the incident associated with the birth but the way she reacted to her discomfort and my judgment of it are entirely reasonably described.<br /><br />Her mother telling her to behave herself was no less respectful than my words describing her behaviour. And I do point out that one should never underestimate the reaction of a woman in labour.<br /><br />So, with all due respect, this post will stay as a testament to the arrival of another life and my role in itXfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08189044083128101123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498194182629204271.post-82126530615442030102011-06-14T22:10:58.646+00:002011-06-14T22:10:58.646+00:00iI have just read and been very touched by your ab...iI have just read and been very touched by your ability to show such emotion for the joy of new life after your own loss..love and sunshine to you and yours K xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498194182629204271.post-81506101058026493152011-06-11T15:01:56.438+00:002011-06-11T15:01:56.438+00:00This made brilliant reading mate. I'm pleased ...This made brilliant reading mate. I'm pleased you could blog about this; at the end of the day we are all only human. Best wishes to you and your family at this difficult time.<br /><br />KieranKierannoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498194182629204271.post-10731439449905373412011-06-10T15:31:19.001+00:002011-06-10T15:31:19.001+00:00Stuart
Thanks for your reflection and your respons...Stuart<br />Thanks for your reflection and your response. I guess what really upset me was that the post seemed so out of character for you, which made it seem that you were having a real go at this woman for her bodily functions! However, Anon hit the nail on the head and I guess it is very hard to write about a subject like this when something so awful has happened to you.<br />My thoughts are with you - my 'birth trauma' pales into insignificance compared to the loss of a baby.<br />Thanks again<br />WendyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498194182629204271.post-63522196551937402882011-06-09T22:00:23.058+00:002011-06-09T22:00:23.058+00:00I offer my genuine sympathy for your loss. Words c...I offer my genuine sympathy for your loss. Words cannot really express the sadness one feels on learning of a fellow parents loss. I am so very sorry.<br /><br />Unfortunately, I found the comments with regard to defecation and the screams of this lady's traumatic labour distressingly disrepectful. It may well have been the truth. But I feel you really showed complete lack of professional integrity in your description. A fast birth is painful and just because she had given birth previously does not mean that this labour was not more distressing or more painful than the first. Until you have given birth yourself I think description of the screaming of a womans labour in the way you did should perhaps have been kept to yourself. In respect for her situation. Screaming in pain is not a failure in itself. Do you think the larger lady experiences more pain perhaps. I don't know. I actually hope you remove this post in respect for the patient. Labour does hurt. Screaming is not illegal and I am pleased that you were their to help the process and take her to hospital although it does not sound as though you respected her at all and my gut instinct is she probably knew this.<br /><br />I appreciate your commens also but I honestly think you should just remove the whole post. Obviously its your blog and you get to write what you want and I can choose not to read if I don't like it. But this is out of character and perhaps on reflection you will remove it.<br /><br />I am sorry to be so brutally honest whilst you are suffering but perhaps the post shows that perhaps you need a little more time before you blog in this regard.<br /><br />Take care.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498194182629204271.post-33451832197371669822011-06-09T09:45:37.203+00:002011-06-09T09:45:37.203+00:00Thank you for your response and editing.
It need...Thank you for your response and editing. <br /><br />It needs much better and as you say less offensive. <br /><br />Lastly I really am sorry for your loss and hope that you and your Wife are coping as well as can be.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498194182629204271.post-6797666305316477272011-06-08T14:01:40.153+00:002011-06-08T14:01:40.153+00:00Anonymous
I have read what you and Wendy have to ...Anonymous<br /><br />I have read what you and Wendy have to say and agree with you. This is a diary and my emotions are, unfortunately all part of my writing... but not at the expense of someone else's dignity.<br /><br />The 'accident' is all part of the story and therefore relevant but I shouldn't emphasise more than I have to of course.<br /><br />No, I didn't mean she had to apologise - it was a statement of how she felt, not what I expected. As I said, the lady took it all in her stride.<br /><br />I have edited this post and hopefully made it a little less hurtful to those of you who may be offended by it.<br /><br />Sometimes it takes a lot of reflection to get things right and I apologise, as ever, if I have written outside of my normal style. And yes, maybe things are influencing how I say what I mean. It's not intentional.<br /><br />Your comments will be removed in a while so that there is no trace of offence, but I will wait until you acknowledge this response and let me know if the story scans better.Xfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08189044083128101123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498194182629204271.post-62719332718974534752011-06-08T06:34:05.719+00:002011-06-08T06:34:05.719+00:00I have to agree with Wendy.
I have had three bab...I have to agree with Wendy. <br /><br />I have had three babies and with one I did poo whilst pushing. As you rightly say as a woman this is something you dread happening. If having your private parts on show for all to see is not embarressing enough!<br /><br />The fact that you say that the lady asked if she had poo'd and you replied that she had but then go on to say " she didn't apologise"? Should she have had to?! <br /><br />Then lastly when referring to your conversation with the police you say that "as if having a baby on the carpet whilst going to the loo wasn't criminal enough". Is this comment really necessary? You had earlier admitted that it is something that a woman can't control yet it should be classed as criminal?!<br /><br />I am sorry for the loss of your baby but I fear what is happening in your personal life is affecting your writing at the moment.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498194182629204271.post-25136141995402231942011-06-06T18:28:11.397+00:002011-06-06T18:28:11.397+00:00Wendy
I'm sorry that you feel so strongly abo...Wendy<br /><br />I'm sorry that you feel so strongly about this. It is an honest description, written the way I would have told it, regardless of what followed in my own life.<br /><br />This isn't a scalding criticism of the poor woman's predicament at all and I don't feel it was a 'repeated' one either - it was a feature of a natural situation. In fact, the police being alerted to her screams was much more pertinent to any humour in the story than her embarrassment and she knew very well that, with everything else going on, it was something we all took in our stride.<br /><br />I relate accounts honestly and with an admittedly acute sense of the way I actually felt and thought at the time. The lady knows what happened and there was never, at any time, anything but a professional and friendly atmosphere about it all.<br /><br />I would remind you that I seek permission from my patients, wherever possible, to write about their experiences and they know I will be frank about it. Public forum or not, permission given or not, their confidentiality is always preserved and I have never had a single complaint from anyone I've written about when they read it; if I did, I would remove the post.Xfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08189044083128101123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498194182629204271.post-37175144238834535252011-06-05T19:44:04.477+00:002011-06-05T19:44:04.477+00:00I'd like to leave a meaningful comment but how...I'd like to leave a meaningful comment but how could I?<br />Maybe well done for this one.<br />Its not as the greatest sentence but there's real feeling there.<br />And keep going.Jackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11900613941493642887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498194182629204271.post-45030925511894079992011-06-05T16:26:56.286+00:002011-06-05T16:26:56.286+00:00I am very sorry for your loss, Stuart, but your de...I am very sorry for your loss, Stuart, but your description of the birth is what has prompted me to comment.<br />I have never been upset by one of your posts before, but your repeated criticism of this woman for pooing herself is really not on.<br />I'm sure she wouldn't have done it in normal circumstances, but she was pushing a baby out for chrissakes!<br />As the saying goes 'shit happens.' It's natural and normal and frankly a lot more acceptable than what some of your drunken and drugged patients deposit at your feet.<br />I crapped myself during a very difficult delivery and didn't find out until much later. I was very embarrassed. How do you know she wasn't? She might have been mortified and unable to find the words to express this. <br />I have suffered from PTSD (ie birth trauma) symptoms since I gave birth some years ago and the thought that a health professional would criticise a patient in this way on a public blog doesn't make me feel any better, that's for sure.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498194182629204271.post-23310032901146035382011-06-04T22:50:12.938+00:002011-06-04T22:50:12.938+00:00Great story! I am glad you find peace in your job....Great story! I am glad you find peace in your job.<br />Be blessed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5498194182629204271.post-33055482683465560112011-06-04T15:41:36.887+00:002011-06-04T15:41:36.887+00:00Stu, hope this finds you and Jac supporting each o...Stu, hope this finds you and Jac supporting each other and growing your love.Lynda Halliger Otvos (Lynda M O)https://www.blogger.com/profile/08938791116446859160noreply@blogger.com